Most guys struggle with getting what they want. Not because they’re not smart, not because they’re not capable, but because they don’t know how to move with intent.

They hesitate. They second-guess. They worry about whether they “deserve” something or if they’re being too pushy. Meanwhile, guys who do get what they want? They just go for it.

Here’s the framework:

1. Get Ruthlessly Clear on What You Want

Most men have a vague idea of what they want—“I want to be successful” or “I want to be in better shape.” That’s useless. If you can’t define it, you can’t get it.

• Be hyper-specific. Not “I want more money,” but “I want to make €10,000 more this year.”
• Put a deadline on it. Goals without deadlines are just wishes.
• Ask yourself: “If I don’t go after this, will I regret it in 5 years?” If the answer is yes, commit.

2. Stop Seeking Permission

A lot of guys wait for permission—whether from society, their boss, their parents, or even their friends. They don’t act because they’re waiting for someone to tell them it’s okay.

• No one is coming to give you a green light. If you wait, you lose.
• High-agency men make a move first, then adjust. The world belongs to people who take action, not those who ask permission.

3. Take Action Faster Than Feels Comfortable

Most people overthink. They want certainty before they act. But certainty is a luxury—it comes after you move, not before.

• Make decisions quickly. If it’s the wrong move, you’ll figure it out faster than if you sat around waiting.
• Get in the habit of acting on instincts. Your first instinct is often the right one.

4. Use the “One Move” Rule

When you don’t know what to do next, don’t freeze—just make one move. Any move. Even a small one.

• Want a better job? Send one email to someone in your industry.
• Want to get in shape? Do one push-up right now.
• Want to meet new people? Say one sentence to a stranger today.

Success is just a chain of small moves stacked on top of each other.

5. Ignore the “What Ifs”

Your brain will try to scare you with worst-case scenarios. “What if I fail?” “What if I look stupid?” “What if people judge me?”

Ask yourself:
“What if it actually works?”

Most guys talk themselves out of their own success because they’re afraid of what might happen. But the truth? You can handle anything that goes wrong. You’ve done it before, and you’ll do it again.

6. Keep the Pressure On

Once you get momentum, don’t let up. When most people make progress, they relax—and that’s when they lose.

• If you land a new job, immediately start leveling up your skills.
• If you lose weight, set the next goal before you get comfortable.
• If you make a big sale, start lining up the next deal right away.

Winners don’t slow down when they’re ahead. They press harder.

7. Make People Bet on You

High-agency men don’t just take action for themselves—they inspire others to bet on them, too.

• Be the guy who follows through. If you say you’re going to do something, do it. No excuses.
• Bring solutions, not problems. Complainers get ignored. Problem-solvers get promoted.
• Be so reliable that people trust you with big opportunities.

When people see you as the guy who makes things happen, doors open that you didn’t even know existed.

Final Thought: Decide That You’re That Guy

The difference between men who get what they want and men who don’t? One simple thing: They decided to be that guy.

Not someday. Not when they “feel ready.” Right now.

So—are you that guy? Or are you still waiting?

Your move.